The Celebrity Love Notes continue, and as another relationship bites the proverbial dust…I am here to give you some real considerations to avoid the mistakes you see in today’s headlines.
My Take:
This relationship had a good foundation. Ashton seem to assimilate seamlessly into the Moore-Willis clan, and and Demi’s new physique didn’t hurt Ashton’s ego on the red carpet.
Now, I always picture Demi Moore emascualtingAshton beyond reproach, because at some point she knows that she could be his mother, and no amount of Kabbalah (or whatever she does) will change that. Ashton, while a good Midwestern boy, can only take so much, and I think that this intolerance is what we see manifested in the now pending divorce for this A-list couple.
Well…that and something about the paparazzi and another woman…tsk-tsk.
If either of them were my client:
First of all, Demi and I have somethings to work on because this is her third marriage. She is old enough to know what she wants in a relationship, but is still failing at marriage–which means that it’s not all their fault. She, like my good friend JLo, might have some similar issues when it comes to understanding the purpose of marriage and how to sustain one.
Additionally, I need to confirm my suspicions about her ability to make a man feel like a tiny, little, impotent boy before she leaves many more casualties in the wake of her post-Ashton singleness.
One last thing, we have to establish is that she, nor Ashton are single at this point. As I have told you before breakups and divorces are likened to death, and this is a time of mourning. Matters not what he did, or she said, or she did, and he said, this relationship must be grieved and time must be taken to heal from it. Period.
Now Ashton seems like a good guy. He’s got good Midwestern roots, and an amusing personality. If you’ve seen his pre-Demi modeling footage, then you know he’s not hard on the eyes either.
So, Ashton, what’s the problem here?
Ashton hadn’t been married before Demi and this isn’t a good or a bad thing, it just is. But something has changed this 6-year relationship, and I need to know his role in those changes.
Once we establish what his present mistakes, and mis-takes have contributed to the failure of this marriage, we’ll look to the future. I would probably give him about 6-9 months to get himself together and then start doing some Connestions (my version of “matchmaking”) with mature, non-celebrity women his own age. Emphasis on his OWN age.
What we can all learn from this:
We can all learn that marriages are challenging. Ashton recently tweeted, I will forever cherish the time I spent with Demi. Marriage is one of the most difficult things in the world and unfortunately sometimes they fail. Love and Light, AK” If such is the case, and you cherish the time, why did you do anything to bring this to an end.
Understand that there are some things that should end a marriage, and some things that are challenges we should overcome. We have become too spoiled with our relationships, and in the process, are ready to diss and dismiss at the slightest sign of trouble. We have got to be committed to our relationships.
Now, it’s not fair for me to judge the fault in this relationship, because I know neither of these individuals personally. However, if they didn’t make a valiant effort to save this union, then both are at fault. If they’re getting divorced over an issue that existed prior to the marriage, then they shouldn’t have gotten friggin married!
Again, marriage is a MAGNIFIER of what is right and wrong in a relationship (Coach Stephism). Nothing changes because you got married, it just becomes a bigger joy or a larger P.I.T.A.
So, we say farewell to the couple known as Demi and Ashton. No more sappy tweets, and group red carpet pics…it’s all over now. But since the two of them will soon be running around Hollywood making new headlines, I hope that they both get themselves together.
Oh yea, I won’t miss those tweets!
LOL!