It’s not uncommon for people who are dating to want to get to know each other. They spend time together and, hopefully, have a good time. Walking together, talking for hours, finding out silly little things we have in common.
Because usually when two people have a good time, they want to have a better time. And, that “better time” normally means sex.
No big deal, right?
Sex is a huge deal. It’s not casual or incidental. It’s major!
Here’s why sex matters:
This is not the STD, pregnancy, blah, blah, blah. You’re a grown up, and if you don’t know that by now that sex can lead to STDs and pregnancy, then just stop reading now…because the rest is going to BLOW…YOUR…MIND!
Ok, you’re still here. So, here are a few more reasons why sex matters.
Reason One: You’re literally intertwined with another person
This is a big deal, and the part that most people over look. For those 20 to may 60 minutes, you are one. And, being one with someone that you merely like, don’t know that well, or simply wanted to have some fun with, can be detrimental. You’re not just one with their body…you are one with their mind…their soul…AND THEIR ISSUES. And the connection doesn’t end when the deal is done.
No wonder you became confrontational after your last rendezvous with you-know-who. Because you-know-who loves confrontation! While they may have left a smile on your face, they also left a residue.
This is the part where you should be a wee bit grossed out.
Don’t worry….I’ll wait.
So, to keep this brief, I will stop right here, but I challenge you to take just 30 seconds before your next intimate moment, and consider what that person is really giving you. And, if think they’re hot, but hate their attitude, consider that your about to open yourself up (no pun intended) to being the very thing you hate. On the other hand, if you love their attitude, this doesn’t exclude you, because nice people still have issues.
Bottom line: This is just one BIG reason (out of many BIG reasons) why sex matters.
Author: Coach Steph
Coach Steph has been featured on Yahoo.com, galtime.com, yourtango.com, WVON Chicago, LATalk Radio, WSEV Los Angeles and in Shape Magazine, to name a few. Recently, she facilitated a tele-seminar for relationship powerhouse, eHarmony.com.
With her special brand of Southern charm and relentless rockstar rhetoric Coach Steph brings a unique perspective to getting the life and love you deserve! Are…you…ready?