Many people have professed that God told them that somebody was “the one” for them. Many have been heartbroken and other inspired by these words. The issue is not if God told you the truth–because if He actually said it, it is the truth, or if God reveals such a thing…those arguments are moot, as God is all-powerful and can tell anyone, anything, at any time. The question is, did God tell you…you did you tell you, and then ask God to agree? It’s easy to make assumptions about what God wants for you–especially in relationships. But when you start putting “God told me” in front of your statements…you need to VERY sure that you are NOT prophe-lying (the opposite of prophesying) on God.
So…How do you know the difference? Let’s see…starting with when God speaks.
When God speaks…he doesn’t sound like James Earl Jones, in fact, He may not have a real voice at all, and He rarely (if ever) speaks in stereo. He still uses a still, small voice (I Kings 19:12), versus a “burning bush.” There’s a stillness and an understated presence that He creates for revelation. Note: If you can mimic the voice that you just heard, it’s probably not God, it was probably you.
When God speaks…there will be confirmation of what He said. This means that through people, events, and the Word, God will confirm what He has said to you…any question that you had/have about what you heard will be clarified. Confusion is not of God…He doesn’t want us to be confused, He wants us to be clear. If you lack clarity, then it’s time to pray.
When God speaks…(sometimes…usually) temptation comes. For example, if God has truly revealed something to you, temptation may come in the form of a faster way to get what you’ve been promised. The temptation usually comes in the process, not the promise. As this relates to “the one,” you may be tempted to have this relationship with “your type” versus waiting for what God is crafting for you. So, know that if that form of temptation comes–do this quick deal, borrow this, lie about this, be with (another) her or him–then you’ve got a promise that is steadfast and true.
When God speaks…there will be peace. If you cannot accept what is “said,” and you become nervous, anxious, restless, or are pushed farther from God versus pulled closer–check the source. Again, God doesn’t deal in confusion. As a wise man once told me, “confusion is not God…period.”
Now, on to the part about God telling you he or she is “the one” for you. Forget what anyone has told you…this does still happen. It does not happen to everyone, however. The challenge is knowing that God is speaking to you (and we just addressed that). The additionally, challenge is holding on to the promise, especially when everything in front of you seems as if the promise is never going to happen, remember this is a process.
Here’s a few tips about what NOT to do when you are holding on to a CONFIRMED, Divine promise:
Don’t tell everyone. While you may be excited, some people are dream killers (haters, if you will), and they will say or do whatever they can to make you doubt what you have been told.
Take your questions to God. If you get doubtful (and you will), take your doubts to God. Taking them to people, only gives them the opportunity to give you natural (human) wisdom, and that isn’t what you need. God uses unusual situations to bring His will into manifestation. Let Him guide you.
Lastly, don’t do this all alone. Find (pray for) someone who will support you in this journey. I currently have a couple of clients that I am doing this for. Once you’ve confirmed that God said it–regardless of what it is–having a spiritual coach/mentor will help you stay focused and faithful to what you are waiting for. To win the prize, every runner needs a coach…get it?
If He said it (really said it)…he will do it. He did it for Sarah Nelson (Read her story.)
In conclusion, God still speaks, don’t ever doubt that. Your challenges are 1) confirm the voice of God then 2) once confirmed, to wait for the promises. His promises are yes and Amen…He doesn’t lie. The question is…can you handle, err…wait on His truth?
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