I know, you’re probably wondering…what in the world? A celebrity? What could any celebrity teach me about love? Celebrities are the most dysfunctional relationships ever seen. True–in most cases, however, there are some things that celebrities can teach us about love and relationships, so let’s take a look.
Well, here’s the good news: It’s okay to be tired of whatever you find yourself tired of.
Here’s more news: It’s not okay to stay tired.
If we’re willing to accept that being tired is our fault, then there are many things that we can do to put an end to our tiredness. Why is it out fault? Because many of things that we are tired of, we cannot control, or change. So, we’re tired because we have exhausted our energy by putting it into a place that cannot return the investment.
How do you change the relationship that won’t get back on track? Either accept that it’s going to be the way that it is, or get out of the relationship. When we stay and try to fix it, and make it change, or change the other person, that doesn’t work…it never works! So, here we are tired of this relationship. No, what we’re tired of is things not being the way we think they should be, or not serving us in a positive way. So deal with it! Seriously.
Same thing with your dreams…are you tired because you’ve done all you can do, or because you did the bare minimum and it didn’t pay off? Ask yourself, why is this taking so long…is it me? Or…the dream? Sometimes dreams take as long as they are going to take. Again, you can accept that or get a new dream. What’s your choice? Visionaries these grand individuals who dream vividly, but can also be very, VERY impatient. But if you’re willing to stay the course and be diligent…I do believe that the manifestation of said dream is closer than you might think.
Now the child…that may be a hard one, or any family member. But, again, what are you tired of? Are you tired of trying to get them to clean their room, or do their homework? Find a purpose? Stop hanging out with him or her? What if you stop trying? What if you decide this is unacceptable and that you’re not going to discuss it with them anymore? After spending weeks, months or years dealing with this situation, what happens if you declare this as the last month for this situation because he or she is going to start seeing a life coach and if that doesn’t change anything then boarding school (or military school) it is. Wow! That sounds harsh; however, what else are you going to do?
We’ve told you that you deserve the best life (and love), so it’s time to take that to heart and stop being tired of situations that you cannot control or change in your own power. Make a decision that is best for you (and your sanity), and start being tired of being relaxed…not worrying…not stressing. See, that doesn’t even make sense.
But…you get the idea. Love YOU! Mean it!
Josh Altman and Heather Bilyeu (the soon to be Mrs. Josh Altman) are one of the newest power couples in LA! Both successful realtors, viewers see multi-million dollar real estate deals delivered each week by Josh and Heather on Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles (#MDLLA). They have done a great job keeping business and “pleasure” separate, as Josh works for one agency and she with The Agency, owned by the amazingly attractive and successful husband, of Kyle Richards (of Real Housewives Beverly Hills fame)–Mauricio Umansky (www.TheAgencyRE.com).However, recently, Josh and his brother decided to open a new real estate venture, appropriately named “The Altman Brothers,” and much to Heather’s chagrin, Josh decided that for the sake of their relationship, she will not be involved.
Of course, she was disappointed…make that a little shy of furious.
Despite the 82% (I read somewhere) that agree with Heather, I am going on record that I agree ONE MILLION PERCENT with Josh!
It takes a very special couple to work and to “play” together. In a business like real estate, which is competitive (and can be cutthroat), working together could pose some challenges. The challenges at work, then become the challenges at home, and it’s down hill from there. Consider the challenges that Heather endured with Madison, if those same issues emerged between Heather and another agent at The Altman Brothers, businessman Josh, then morphs into super-protective fiancé or new husband Josh Altman, and we have a problem…a big one. I personally, hate to see Josh when he’s not calm, cool and collected, and I can only imagine how wrong that can go in real life.
Hopefully, Heather has seen the light (since this was taped many moons ago), and recognizes that being separate in their professional endeavors will allow them to have professional happenings to share during their quality times at home, but will also keep them from having their personal lives overrun by real estate. As a couple, it is imperative that this time is used to get to know each other –even better than they do now. This is the time for deep discussions about our future and our children, NOT to be distracted by some deal that went South the day before, nor to explore the quickest way to entice a buyer for a $20.2 million compound in the Hollywood Hills.
What anyone can learn from this situation, is that if you have a significant other who is actively taking responsibility for the success of the relationship, then that is a good thing…this is what Josh did. I give Josh kudos for standing up for his relationship and saying that working together may create situations that may impact our ability to stay together. I give Heather kudos for being upset at first, but accepting the reality and–even if she doesn’t mean it–showing solidarity with Altman’s decision. Ultimately, this is what marriage is about–being teammates. As such is the case, “Team Altman-Bilyeu” is on the right track.
Congrats!
#CoachStephHasSpoken
Update: Josh and Heather wed in 2016 after a three-year engagement. Congrats!